About the book
To order the book
"Aggrieved: The bereaved
have to cope with their lossand with the pressure to heal"
Kota Press publishes "Aggrieved," an essay adapted from the book, in the
December 2001 issue of the Loss Journal. The Next button on the following page
links to the essay and to the afterword, "Let the guinea pigs speak: Detaching grief
from theory," added in April 2002.
After the attacks on September 11, MightyWords.com, eBookWeb.org, and Word Works feature
- "Coping with Tragedy: eBooks on Grief,
- "Recommendation for an outstanding book on
HonoredBabies.org, a site dedicated to helping women after pregnancy and childbirth loss,
selects the book for a site award in the spring of 2000.
Honored Babies Site Award
I would like to thank Paula Long, the
director of Honored Babies, for choosing this site as her organization's honored selection
for the months of April and May 2000. Honored Babies, which Paula Long established in
honor of her son Kadin, offers a support network for bereaved mothers and grandmothers.
She is collecting stories for a book of personal
writings on baby and infant loss, welcoming submissions from women in the United States
and from around the world.
The following grief and pregnancy loss sites feature the book.
- Dancing Moon Design
Lisa Thun, an artist, creates handmade grief journals for bereaved parents. On her site
she offers more than two dozen other ways parents can preserve their child's memory, and
also writes movingly of the death of her newborn son, Miles, in 1996.
- The Diary (geocities.com/Heartland/Cottage/7991)
The Diary is an account by Lynne Schulz of her twin pregnancy. In March of 1990 she
gave birth to a son, Rhys, and to a daughter, Megan, who had died in utero. Schulz is the
founder of the Murraylands Lutheran Stillborn Infant Support Service, based in Australia.
Her site has an ordering link for her book, one of the few available on the sad and
ambiguous challenge of reconciling grief for one child and joy for the survivor. The site
also includes a list of comments to avoid making to a parent who has lost a twin.
- Midwife Archives (gentlebirth.org)
Compiled by Ronnie Falcao, a licensed midwife in California, this is a collection of
information on pregnancy and birth from the point of view of midwives. The "Grief and
Loss" section of the site:
Dr. Elizabeth Pector, a family physician in Naperville, Illinois, has posted a resource
site for the parents of multiples who are dealing with the loss, prematurity, or special
needs of one or more of their children. The mother of twins, Jared, born prematurely, and
his brother, Bryan, who died from a cord accident the day before delivery in 1997, she
also has written articles on these issues. The articles are linked on her resource
- TAMBA Bereavement Support Group
This is the bereavement division of the Twins and Multiple Births Association, a British
organization. Created by Dr. Elizabeth Bryan, a pediatrician and a founder of TAMBA, the
site is run by volunteers, offering parent-to-parent support.
Member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling (adec.org). The Web
page for the book at ADEC's site: